Is this for you?
You love your partner and you are both committed to honest and compassionate communication. You may be just beginning a relationship (pre-marital or dating) and getting along pretty well. You want to build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
While you are getting along well now, you know that intimate relationship will eventually bring up every unresolved issue you have and life's stresses will challenge you.
You want to be able to meet reactivity and hardship with the compassion and the skills to work through it. You know that the depth of trust and safety in your relationship increases each time you meet stress in this way.
Or, you may be in a well established relationship and experiencing stress and conflict.
Your relationship too often seems like a courtroom in which you are each trying to prove your case. You stalemate and nothing moves. You dig in your heels. You tighten. You want to be right. You either get angry and say hurtful things or you disappear and shut down.
Sometimes the judge and jury is in your own head. You’ve got a pack of jackals biting and barking . . . “What’s wrong with me?” “I’m such an idiot.” “I should have known better.” “I can't do intimate relationship, I am a failure." "I’m never going to be enough.” You’re exhausted from self-criticism. You can't make peace with your partner when there is a war in your own mind.
You need new tools to express honestly while staying in a heart connection.
If any of this has you nodding your head and:
- You value relationships that are honest, supportive, and fun.
- You are willing to question your current ways of relating
- You’re working to embody compassion and peace.
- You’re longing to express what you care about most in a way that can be heard.
Then you may be wondering how it all works.