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It’s not about NVC

When you're first learning something it's easy to focus on the details and forget the larger picture. I like the way the following story demonstrates this point.

Four people laying bricks were asked, "What are you doing?"

The first said, "I am laying bricks." The second said, "I am building a wall." The third said, "I am building a cathedral." The fourth said, "I am serving God."

The purpose of NVC is not to learn NVC. It's about experiencing what's alive, being in your heart and feeling the heart of others. It's about noticing when there is a lack of connection and finding connection with yourself or someone else.

As you become more and more aware of what is alive in you without judgment, interpretations, or stories, a heart connection is naturally there. From this connection you can act from what is true rather than from ideas about what should or shouldn't be. You can live your life from a place of integrity and aliveness.

As you go through your day today, bring your awareness back again and again to what is alive in your heart. Ask yourself, what feelings and needs are alive now? Don't worry about being able to name feelings and needs exactly. Just to ask the question is a step on the road to enlightenment.

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