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Facing Crisis

If you have been reading these Connection Gems for a while, there is a good chance that you have had the good fortune of a somewhat stable and predictable life.  From that stability you have had capacity for stretching yourself into learning and growing.  But crisis comes at one time or another.  Here in the U.S., you might feel a sense of national crisis.  At whatever level you experience crisis, it's essential to name and engage with that which keeps you grounded and resourced.


At the most basic level, keeping yourself physically and emotionally regulated is the first step.  This includes things like adequate sleep, regular healthy meals, exercise, supportive interactions with others, and meaningful engagement.  You can find a longer list of little things that help with regulation here:  span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">


Of the many things you can do to help keep yourself grounded in a crisis, there are some that are trusted healthy habits and there are others that you access less reliably.  Of this second list, it's helpful to name at least three things you to which you can commit.


Learning theory shows that the mind can most effectively hold three things in short term memory at a time.  Thus, when facing a crisis, choosing three things to commit to for grounding helps with a sense of do-ability.  What are those three things for you?


It may be helpful for one of those three things to be that which is mutually exclusive to your most common form of reactivity.  In other words, the unhelpful coping that you might do when facing a crisis.  For example, if you tend to withdraw and shut down when under stress, consistent engagement with others might be an essential thing to keep you grounded.  Or, if you tend to get frantic and controlling under stress, then perhaps meditation or yoga are essential to keep you grounded.


The main thing is to choose those three things that keep you grounded and set them up in your life in a way that makes it easy for you to consistently engage in them.



Take a moment now to name at least one thing that you know helps you stay grounded that has slipped away from your daily life.  What kind of support do you want to put in place to help you access this?

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1 Response

  1. Dec 02, 2016
    Tenzin Tsepal

    Very timely advice.

    So scary are the consequences of a collapse of white privilege that many Americans have flocked to a political platform that supports and translates violence against the defenseless as strength.
    Toni Morrison

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