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Oct 19, 2017 A Snorkel for “Too Much Closeness” Add a Comment
Oct 12, 2017 When Needs Becoming Strategies 1 Comment
Oct 05, 2017 Reactivity that Stays for Days 1 Comment
Sep 28, 2017 "Choosing" an Affair 8 Comments
Sep 21, 2017 The Problem with Empathy 1 Comment
Sep 14, 2017 Keeping Boundaries 8 Comments
Sep 07, 2017 Demands for Change 9 Comments
Aug 24, 2017 Freedom in Marriage 2 Comments
Aug 16, 2017 The Excitement of Reactivity Add a Comment
Aug 10, 2017 Talking about Sex 2 Comments
Aug 03, 2017 Self-Pity vs. Self-Empathy 1 Comment
Jul 27, 2017 Sexual Expression: Discerning Needs & Strategies 2 Comments
Jul 20, 2017 Contemplative Practice for Healing Add a Comment
Jul 12, 2017 Contemplative Practice for Spiritual Insight Add a Comment
Jul 06, 2017 Allowing and Repair 2 Comments
Jun 29, 2017 When to Let It Go Add a Comment
Jun 21, 2017 The Power of Body Language 2 Comments
Jun 15, 2017 Responding to Power Over Add a Comment
Jun 08, 2017 Difficult interactions 6 Comments
May 31, 2017 When Your Partner is Not There for You Add a Comment
May 26, 2017 The Importance of Anger 2 Comments
May 11, 2017 Agency & Shame 1 Comment
May 04, 2017 Your Partner’s Inner World as Sacred Ground 8 Comments
Apr 27, 2017 Being Heard Add a Comment
Apr 21, 2017 Giving from the Heart Add a Comment
Apr 13, 2017 Working with Worry Add a Comment
Apr 06, 2017 Integrity & Judgment of Others Add a Comment
Apr 01, 2017 Repair Basics 1 Comment
Mar 23, 2017 Comparisons & Stuck Anger 1 Comment
Mar 16, 2017 Bringing Light to Shame 16 Comments
Mar 09, 2017 Shame Add a Comment
Mar 02, 2017 NVC Empathy and Codependency 2 Comments
Feb 23, 2017 A Shortcut to Truth 4 Comments
Feb 17, 2017 Spiritual Practice and NVC 2 Comments
Feb 09, 2017 Responding to Someone Fighting for a Cause 4 Comments
Feb 02, 2017 Talking about the Past Add a Comment
Jan 26, 2017 Reactivity & Fighting for Your Cause Add a Comment
Jan 19, 2017 Responding to “Show them how it feels!” Add a Comment
Jan 12, 2017 Practicing with Shutting Down 2 Comments
Jan 05, 2017 Boundaries & Betrayal 2 Comments
Dec 21, 2016 Family and the Holidays 16 Comments
Dec 15, 2016 3 Key Communication Principles 7 Comments
Dec 08, 2016 Worthlessness & Belonging 2 Comments
Dec 02, 2016 Facing Crisis 1 Comment
Nov 23, 2016 From Obligation to Giving from the Heart Add a Comment
Nov 17, 2016 Grief & Mourning for the World 5 Comments
Nov 10, 2016 Shame & Accountability Add a Comment
Nov 03, 2016 Interrupt to Connect 8 Comments
Oct 27, 2016 Judgment vs. Discernment 3 Comments
Oct 14, 2016 Empathy Hostage 6 Comments
Oct 07, 2016 Reassurance & Repetitive Fears Add a Comment
Sep 29, 2016 Accessing Creativity with Requests Add a Comment
Sep 22, 2016 Needs: Lasting Satisfaction vs. Equanimity & Stewardship 6 Comments
Sep 08, 2016 Stages of Collaborative Dialogue Add a Comment
Sep 02, 2016 Praise, Honesty, & Appreciative Joy Add a Comment
Aug 25, 2016 "I can't be myself in this relationship" 92 Comments
Aug 18, 2016 Understanding Overwhelm 6 Comments
Aug 11, 2016 The Parent / Child Dynamic in Your Intimate Relationship 2 Comments
Aug 04, 2016 Unconscious Imperatives and Self Empathy Add a Comment
Jul 28, 2016 Being Charmed or True Caring? Add a Comment
Jul 20, 2016 The Relationship Score Card 4 Comments
Jul 13, 2016 Getting to the Root of Worry Add a Comment
Jul 07, 2016 Dissolve Barriers to Love Add a Comment
Jun 30, 2016 Stay Grounded in a Reactive Moment 6 Comments
Jun 23, 2016 Top 3 Stuck Places 4 Comments
Jun 09, 2016 If only you were different, he would change 16 Comments
Jun 01, 2016 What does it mean to offer quality presence? 8 Comments
May 26, 2016 Why Do You Keep Choosing “Unhealthy” Relationships? 3 Comments
May 19, 2016 Shame, Criticism, & Requests 1 Comment
May 11, 2016 Finding Inspiration to Change Bad Habits Add a Comment
May 05, 2016 Practicing with Anger Add a Comment
Apr 29, 2016 A Simple Practice with Reactivity 4 Comments
Apr 21, 2016 Getting off the “Should” Wheel 1 Comment
Apr 14, 2016 When Compassionate Communication ISN’T Compassionate Add a Comment
Apr 07, 2016 Making Someone Jealous 2 Comments
Apr 01, 2016 Slippery Conversations 2 Comments
Mar 24, 2016 A Competition in Suffering 4 Comments
Mar 17, 2016 Emotional Volatility: Calm Down or Shut Down? 4 Comments
Mar 10, 2016 Say It Like It Is 4 Comments
Mar 03, 2016 Supporting Your Partner's Autonomy 8 Comments
Feb 25, 2016 2 Keys to Responsible Reactivity Add a Comment
Feb 18, 2016 Intentions & Conditions First Add a Comment
Feb 04, 2016 Compassion for Anxiety 6 Comments
Jan 28, 2016 Rationalization that Keeps You Stuck 3 Comments
Jan 21, 2016 Falling Down the Rabbit Hole & Climbing Out 1 Comment
Jan 14, 2016 Be Happy with What You’ve Got or Ask for More? 2 Comments
Jan 07, 2016 Responding to Manipulation 10 Comments
Dec 31, 2015 When You Wish for More Maturity & Skill in Others 5 Comments
Dec 24, 2015 3 Principles for Teaching Others Your Love Language 3 Comments
Dec 17, 2015 The Argument that Keeps Coming Back 1 Comment
Dec 09, 2015 Invalidating Other’s Feelings Add a Comment
Dec 03, 2015 Staying with Yourself Despite Others’ “Not Empathy” Responses 1 Comment
Nov 25, 2015 Is Empathy Enough? 3 Comments
Nov 19, 2015 Your Pain & Your Partner’s Personal Growth Add a Comment
Nov 12, 2015 Giving Away Your Power Doesn’t Make It Easier Add a Comment
Oct 29, 2015 How to Cultivate Emotional Intelligence Add a Comment
Oct 21, 2015 Increase the Chances You’ll Be Heard Add a Comment
Oct 15, 2015 The Art of Revisiting Past Conversations 1 Comment
Oct 08, 2015 Keys to Dissolving Defensiveness 2 Comments
Sep 30, 2015 Say No in 4 Simple Steps 2 Comments
Sep 23, 2015 A Connected “No” is better than a Defended “Yes” 1 Comment
Sep 17, 2015 Resolving Inner Conflict Add a Comment
Sep 10, 2015 Unconscious Behaviors that Block Intimacy 1 Comment
Sep 02, 2015 Common Pitfalls When Only One Partner is Learning NVC 2 Comments
Aug 27, 2015 What Does it Really Mean to Feel Your Feelings? 1 Comment
Aug 21, 2015 Relying on Yourself and Relying on Others 2 Comments
Aug 06, 2015 Successful Negotiation 4 Comments
Jul 30, 2015 Reasonable Upset Add a Comment
Jul 23, 2015 From Anger to Transformation Add a Comment
Jul 15, 2015 Differentiation and Bonding 2 Comments
Jul 09, 2015 Connection with Your Noisy Neighbor 8 Comments
Jul 02, 2015 But My Partner Doesn’t Want to Meet My Needs! 2 Comments
Jun 18, 2015 The Many Faces of Shame 2 Comments
Jun 11, 2015 Disagree and Celebrate Anyway Add a Comment
Jun 04, 2015 Relationship Check-In Add a Comment
May 28, 2015 Your “Demanding” Partner and Being with Upset Add a Comment
May 21, 2015 Looking for Depth in Your Relationship Add a Comment
May 14, 2015 What makes boundary setting difficult? 2 Comments
May 07, 2015 Learning how to Attune 1 Comment
Apr 30, 2015 Who’s Abandoning Who? 6 Comments
Apr 23, 2015 Empathy & Embracing Fear 2 Comments
Apr 16, 2015 Mindful Dialogue Structure for Tough Issues Add a Comment
Apr 09, 2015 Threat & Trust 4 Comments
Apr 02, 2015 Detaching from Reactive Comments 2 Comments
Mar 27, 2015 When You Don’t Want the Details 2 Comments
Mar 19, 2015 When the Hurt Goes Deep 1 Comment
Mar 12, 2015 Your Stuck Friend (Part 2) Add a Comment
Mar 05, 2015 Your Stuck Friend (Part 1) 2 Comments
Feb 26, 2015 Love as a Practice 1 Comment
Feb 19, 2015 Setting Boundaries After an Affair 3 Comments
Feb 12, 2015 What’s okay to expect of my partner? 3 Comments
Feb 05, 2015 Offering What’s Been Missing 1 Comment
Jan 28, 2015 Inviting vs. Interviewing in Dating Add a Comment
Jan 22, 2015 Emotional Resourcing 2 Comments
Jan 14, 2015 A Positive Relationship with Reactivity 8 Comments
Jan 02, 2015 Where’s the line between giving what my partner asks and being untrue to myself? Add a Comment
Dec 17, 2014 Your Inner Critic is a Danger to Yourself AND Others 3 Comments
Dec 10, 2014 Normal Couples Argue about Listening & Goodness 1 Comment
Dec 04, 2014 Competence & Building a Self Add a Comment
Nov 26, 2014 The Way Others Treat You Add a Comment
Nov 19, 2014 When Your Life Isn’t Quite Your Own: Reactive Vows 1 Comment
Nov 14, 2014 Boring Questions & Alive Answers Add a Comment
Nov 06, 2014 When Willpower Fails 1 Comment
Oct 30, 2014 Set Boundaries Early in Relationship 1 Comment
Oct 23, 2014 Mental Health Diagnoses & Guessing Needs 6 Comments
Oct 16, 2014 Tired of Defending? 4 Comments
Oct 09, 2014 More Do-able Requests for Empathy and Emotional Support Add a Comment
Oct 01, 2014 Do-able Requests for Empathy and Emotional Support Add a Comment
Sep 25, 2014 Happiness & Self-Empathy 2 Comments
Sep 18, 2014 Judging & Criticizing Others Add a Comment
Sep 11, 2014 Criticism, Complaining, & Unmet Needs Add a Comment
Sep 04, 2014 Responsiveness 1 Comment
Aug 28, 2014 Expressing the Aliveness of a Need 2 Comments
Aug 21, 2014 Vulnerability & Feedback Add a Comment
Aug 15, 2014 Sensitivities & The Needs Underneath 1 Comment
Aug 07, 2014 Handling Demands Add a Comment
Jul 30, 2014 Selfish and Self Responsible Add a Comment
Jul 25, 2014 The Alarms – Anger, Guilt, & Shame 20 Comments
Jul 23, 2014 Spiritual Ideals and Shame Add a Comment
Jul 10, 2014 Authenticity and Depression 3 Comments
Jun 27, 2014 Anchoring Conflict in Specifics 2 Comments
Jun 27, 2014 Giving Yourself Compassion 9 Comments
Jun 20, 2014 "Feeling Trapped" 10 Comments
Jun 12, 2014 Realizing Impact 4 Comments
Jun 06, 2014 Mindful Dialogue 4 Comments
May 30, 2014 Saying Thank You Add a Comment
May 22, 2014 Get Curious about Broken Agreements 6 Comments
May 20, 2014 “But it didn’t happen that way!” 3 Comments
May 15, 2014 The Purpose of Shame 1 Comment
May 07, 2014 Control: A Universal Strategy 6 Comments
May 06, 2014 Why Words Don’t Help 2 Comments
May 01, 2014 “Falling Out of Love” Add a Comment
Apr 22, 2014 Meeting Prejudice Add a Comment
Apr 16, 2014 Empathy Without Words Add a Comment
Apr 10, 2014 A Safe Space to Share 2 Comments
Apr 06, 2014 Praise Add a Comment
Apr 01, 2014 Verbal “Attacks” from Strangers 4 Comments
Mar 28, 2014 Helpful Time-outs Add a Comment
Mar 23, 2014 What are you telling yourself? Add a Comment
Mar 20, 2014 Plan for Reactivity Add a Comment
Mar 15, 2014 Lawyering for Your Needs 6 Comments
Mar 06, 2014 Accessing Your Innate Goodness 8 Comments
Mar 01, 2014 Self-Worth, Forgiveness, & Repair 18 Comments
Feb 28, 2014 Responding to ”Lawyering” Add a Comment
Feb 21, 2014 Wrong-Making & Transformation Add a Comment
Feb 14, 2014 Letting Go of Anger 6 Comments
Feb 14, 2014 Push, Pull, or Stuck - Finding Relationship Balance Add a Comment
Feb 04, 2014 Rules & Collaboration at Work 12 Comments
Jan 27, 2014 Your Ranting Boss 9 Comments
Jan 17, 2014 Depression & Relationships Add a Comment
Jan 12, 2014 Preferred Strategies in Relationship Negotiable & Non-negotiable Add a Comment
Jan 05, 2014 Disagreements, Ping-pong, and Collaboration Add a Comment
Dec 30, 2013 Empathy When Things are Fine 6 Comments
Dec 22, 2013 The Family You Wish You Had Add a Comment
Nov 27, 2013 The Tragic Cycle of Overwhelm & Withdraw 2 Comments
Nov 23, 2013 Empathy, Authenticity, & Shame Add a Comment
Nov 14, 2013 Body Image 2 Comments
Nov 08, 2013 Meeting Self-Criticism in Others 8 Comments
Oct 31, 2013 Personality or Reactivity 3 Comments
Oct 24, 2013 Compassion for Yourself Add a Comment
Oct 18, 2013 Relief from Anxiety Add a Comment
Oct 04, 2013 Curing the "I'm so busy" Disease 2 Comments
Oct 04, 2013 Obsession & Your Issues 2 Comments
Sep 27, 2013 Receiving Compliments 18 Comments
Sep 26, 2013 Truth Telling & Emotional Breakdown 2 Comments
Sep 19, 2013 Hurting Others on Purpose 6 Comments
Sep 13, 2013 Making Decisions from Overwhelm Add a Comment
Sep 05, 2013 Requests-Moving towards what you want Add a Comment
Aug 30, 2013 Concern for the World 10 Comments
Aug 22, 2013 Greeting your partner at the door Add a Comment
Aug 22, 2013 Sounding Natural 10 Comments
Aug 16, 2013 Defining Reactivity Add a Comment
Aug 08, 2013 Your Partner as Problem and Solution 8 Comments
Aug 03, 2013 Before A Money Conversation Add a Comment
Jul 25, 2013 Asking for a Pause Add a Comment
Jul 18, 2013 Knee-Jerk Negativity 16 Comments
Jul 08, 2013 Compromise & Reactivity 6 Comments
Jul 03, 2013 Compassion vs. Saving 6 Comments
Jun 25, 2013 Reactivity and Agreements Add a Comment
Jun 17, 2013 Not Taking It Personally 6 Comments
Jun 11, 2013 Equal Doesn't Mean Same Add a Comment
Jun 04, 2013 Hearing without Defending 21 Comments
May 21, 2013 Making Threats or Setting Boundaries Add a Comment
May 15, 2013 Building Trust 6 Comments
May 09, 2013 Intimate Relationship as a High Cost Strategy 4 Comments
May 07, 2013 You Don’t Want to Hurt Their Feelings (Part 2) Add a Comment
Apr 29, 2013 You Don’t Want to Hurt Their Feelings Add a Comment
Apr 26, 2013 Requests - Giving the Gift of Your Needs 8 Comments
Apr 22, 2013 Questions: A Cry for Empathy in Disguise Add a Comment
Apr 18, 2013 Emotional Dependence & Building a Yurt 6 Comments
Apr 16, 2013 Empathy: Meeting the Jackals 2 Comments
Apr 08, 2013 Invalidating Other's Feelings vs. Listening with Empathy 8 Comments
Apr 05, 2013 Integrity & Responsibility Add a Comment
Apr 02, 2013 Making a Safe Space for Requests Add a Comment
Mar 27, 2013 Building Trust with Attunement & Repair 2 Comments
Mar 26, 2013 Making Clear Requests Add a Comment
Mar 19, 2013 Making Demands Add a Comment
Mar 12, 2013 Checking Out Assumptions Add a Comment
Mar 08, 2013 Self-Empathy Fundamentals Add a Comment
Mar 05, 2013 Asking the Impossible vs. Do-able Requests 6 Comments
Feb 28, 2013 Meeting Your Partner’s Reactivity & Making Requests 2 Comments
Feb 26, 2013 “Don’t Criticize me!” vs. Do-able requests 12 Comments
Feb 22, 2013 Boldly Ask for the Relationship You Want 4 Comments
Feb 19, 2013 Making a Plan to Change Your Partner 4 Comments
Feb 14, 2013 Authority vs. Power Over / Power Under 2 Comments
Feb 12, 2013 Gossip 21 Comments
Jan 31, 2013 Losing Yourself to Anger and Blame Add a Comment
Jan 29, 2013 Loving Someone for Who They Are 16 Comments
Jan 22, 2013 When a Child Lies Add a Comment
Jan 15, 2013 Why you want an apology and Why it's not enough 4 Comments
Jan 08, 2013 Asking for Respect 6 Comments
Jan 03, 2013 Power Over Your Partner 2 Comments
Jan 01, 2013 Needs, what are they? 2 Comments
Dec 27, 2012 Making Others Accountable Add a Comment
Dec 25, 2012 Meeting Criticism with Criticism 12 Comments
Dec 22, 2012 Working Too Hard: Content vs. Connection (part 3 of 3) 2 Comments
Dec 17, 2012 When others don’t change 18 Comments
Dec 13, 2012 Working Too Hard: Content vs. Connection (part 2 of 3) Add a Comment
Dec 07, 2012 Working Too Hard: Managing Connection vs. Managing Content (part 1 of 3) Add a Comment
Dec 03, 2012 Good Intentions & Tragic Strategies Add a Comment
Nov 27, 2012 We Live to Serve Add a Comment
Nov 22, 2012 Runaway Truck Ramps for Reactivity Add a Comment
Nov 20, 2012 In a Mucky Conversation come back to Observation 2 Comments
Nov 20, 2012 Doing NVC vs. Living NVC Add a Comment
Nov 15, 2012 Self-Empathy and Still Stuck 4 Comments
Nov 14, 2012 Feeling "Excluded" 8 Comments
Nov 09, 2012 Are you hiding behind empathy? 8 Comments
Nov 05, 2012 Self-Empathy, Needs, & Requests Add a Comment
Oct 31, 2012 Choice 6 Comments
Oct 26, 2012 NVC & Mental Illness 7 Comments
Oct 23, 2012 Feelings that blame? 12 Comments
Oct 17, 2012 Conspiring for Compassion Add a Comment
Oct 12, 2012 When You Can't Change Others 2 Comments
Oct 09, 2012 Identify Your Needs On The Fly 12 Comments
Oct 05, 2012 “Healthy Disconnect" Add a Comment
Oct 02, 2012 I can’t stop analyzing! Add a Comment
Sep 23, 2012 Personal Boundaries 8 Comments
Sep 18, 2012 Saying No 2 Comments
Sep 06, 2012 Emotional Medicine 3 Comments
Sep 04, 2012 When Your Past Shows Up in the Present Add a Comment
Aug 31, 2012 Glacial Change 1 Comment
Aug 28, 2012 Lasting Happiness in Ice Cream Add a Comment
Aug 26, 2012 Apologies That Help 6 Comments
Aug 21, 2012 Moving from Self-Criticism to Self- Empathy 4 Comments
Aug 14, 2012 What’s Between Self-Criticism and Self- Empathy? (Part 1) 4 Comments
Aug 09, 2012 Offering “too much” Empathy 6 Comments
Aug 07, 2012 Basics for Self-Empathy 4 Comments
Aug 01, 2012 The Cost of Self-Reliance 2 Comments
Jul 26, 2012 The Caretaker Partner 4 Comments
Jul 24, 2012 When others become ”Its” Add a Comment
Jul 17, 2012 Sharing NVC Add a Comment
Jul 12, 2012 “Emotional Cheating” 6 Comments
Jul 10, 2012 It’s not about NVC Add a Comment
Jul 05, 2012 Moving from Attachment to Abundance 4 Comments
Jul 05, 2012 Family Healing 8 Comments
Jun 30, 2012 Needy 8 Comments
Jun 26, 2012 The Spirituality of NVC Add a Comment
Jun 21, 2012 When he doesn’t want to talk about it 2 Comments
Jun 19, 2012 Obsessed with What's Wrong 2 Comments
Jun 14, 2012 Comparing Jackals 6 Comments
Jun 12, 2012 Taming Your Monkey Mind Add a Comment
Jun 07, 2012 Conditions for Reactivity & Centeredness 1 Comment
Jun 05, 2012 Getting Started with Mindfulness & Jackals 4 Comments
May 24, 2012 Setting Boundaries & Letting Go of Resolution 4 Comments
May 09, 2012 When Your Partner Runs Out of Gas-Part 2 1 Comment
May 03, 2012 When Your Partner Runs Out of Gas 3 Comments
Apr 26, 2012 Empathy vs. Investigation 2 Comments
Apr 19, 2012 Creating Safety 1 Comment
Apr 12, 2012 Apologies in NVC 6 Comments
Mar 29, 2012 Wriggling Away from Anxiety Add a Comment
Mar 16, 2012 The Dating Game 1 Comment
Feb 09, 2012 Asking for the Love You Want 1 Comment
Jan 25, 2012 Accepting Your Partner Too Much 14 Comments
Jan 13, 2012 Choosing Attachment 2 Comments
Jan 06, 2012 Asking for and Giving Advice 9 Comments
Dec 29, 2011 Lost Love & the Drive Towards Wholeness 3 Comments
Dec 15, 2011 The Stress of Fear & Clinging Add a Comment
Dec 09, 2011 Depression and Abandoning Yourself 5 Comments
Dec 04, 2011 Depression 6 Comments
Nov 10, 2011 Your Partner's Self-Criticism 2 Comments
Nov 03, 2011 Build a Bridge before Crossing 3 Comments
Oct 27, 2011 Your Partner's Reactivity isn't About You 3 Comments
Oct 20, 2011 There's No Such Thing as Independence Add a Comment
Oct 13, 2011 The Basics of Working with Reactivity 5 Comments
Oct 05, 2011 Naming and Owning Reactivity 2 Comments
Sep 29, 2011 Responding to Jackals in the Moment 1 Comment
Sep 22, 2011 Your Tired Partner 4 Comments
Sep 14, 2011 Responding to "Big Personalities" 5 Comments
Sep 07, 2011 Working too hard at Listening? Add a Comment
Sep 01, 2011 Catching Your Partner in the Wrong Add a Comment
Aug 10, 2011 Pulling at Your Distant Partner 12 Comments
Jul 27, 2011 Changing Relationship with Less Technology 4 Comments
Jul 21, 2011 Curiosity for Poor Decisions 2 Comments
Jul 14, 2011 Managing Emotions and Herding Cats 5 Comments
Jul 07, 2011 How "Acceptance" Escalates Conflict Add a Comment
Jun 30, 2011 Family Member in Trouble 7 Comments
Jun 23, 2011 Complaining II 2 Comments
Jun 02, 2011 When Every Request is a Demand 4 Comments
May 11, 2011 Loving without Giving Yourself Away 3 Comments
May 05, 2011 Responding to "You always...!" 1 Comment
Apr 21, 2011 Working Hard to be Seen 2 Comments
Apr 13, 2011 Complaining 1 Comment
Apr 06, 2011 NVC in the Workplace 4 Comments
Mar 24, 2011 Pause & Resource 1 Comment
Mar 15, 2011 Understanding & Responding to Blame 11 Comments
Mar 11, 2011 Taking Responsibility for Your Healing 4 Comments
Mar 03, 2011 Self-Expression & Identity 2 Comments
Feb 25, 2011 Before the Heated Argument 1 Comment
Feb 16, 2011 Guidelines for Self-Reflection Add a Comment
Feb 10, 2011 Staying with "No" Add a Comment
Feb 02, 2011 Intention and Effect Add a Comment
Jan 27, 2011 The Attraction of Blame 1 Comment
Jan 11, 2011 Equanimity with Painful Feelings 5 Comments
Jan 05, 2011 Basic Guidelines for Dialogue 1 Comment
Dec 29, 2010 Asking for Presence Add a Comment
Dec 22, 2010 Taking Care of Yourself When Visiting Family 3 Comments
Dec 08, 2010 Expectations of Your Partner Add a Comment
Nov 25, 2010 Setting Boundaries around Reactivity 1 Comment
Nov 18, 2010 Setting Boundaries from the Inside 8 Comments
Nov 05, 2010 Facing the "Difficult" Person 15 Comments
Oct 28, 2010 Analyzing Your Partner's Needs Add a Comment
Oct 14, 2010 Heart-full Requests 1 Comment
Oct 07, 2010 Making Your Relationship a Priority Without Losing Yourself Add a Comment
Sep 30, 2010 When You "Have To" (Belonging vs. Choice) Add a Comment
Sep 23, 2010 Slow Isn't Everything Add a Comment
Sep 15, 2010 Big Emotion Add a Comment
Sep 01, 2010 Control Disguised as a Request Add a Comment
Aug 25, 2010 Hearing Criticism from Others 6 Comments
Aug 18, 2010 A Pitfall of Improving Your Relationship 1 Comment
Aug 11, 2010 Trapped in Reactive Thinking 1 Comment
Aug 04, 2010 Hiding from Your Partner Add a Comment
Jul 22, 2010 Emergency Measures for Escalating Arguments 1 Comment
Jul 11, 2010 Helpful Time-outs 1 Comment
Jul 07, 2010 Information in Celebration 1 Comment
Jun 24, 2010 A Stable Sense of Support in Economic Instability Add a Comment
Jun 17, 2010 Do you have more or less of a need? 5 Comments
Jun 10, 2010 Shame Jackals Keep You Stuck 3 Comments
Jun 03, 2010 The True Purpose of Appreciation 1 Comment
May 27, 2010 Empathy Doesn't Have to Wear You Out 3 Comments
May 20, 2010 You've Asked Over & Over Again 1 Comment
May 05, 2010 Finding Aliveness - When You Are Being Talked At 1 Comment
Apr 29, 2010 How Staying Positive Can Leave You Lonely 4 Comments
Apr 22, 2010 Responding to Arguments Against NVC 4 Comments
Apr 16, 2010 You don't have to agree to be supportive 2 Comments
Apr 01, 2010 Apologies That Mean Something 4 Comments
Mar 18, 2010 Alarm Feelings - Anger, Guilt, Shame, & Depression 4 Comments
Mar 11, 2010 Screaming in Anger Add a Comment
Feb 04, 2010 When Empathy Doesn't Work 1 Comment
Jan 28, 2010 No More Compromise 1 Comment
Jan 21, 2010 Interrupting to Connect 2 Comments
Jan 15, 2010 Empathy for Long Term Relationships 1 Comment
Jan 01, 2010 When Message Sent Isn't Message Received Add a Comment
Dec 17, 2009 When Your Past Shows Up in the Present 3 Comments
Dec 11, 2009 When You Just Want an Apology! 5 Comments
Dec 02, 2009 A Vision of Success with a Stuck Argument Add a Comment
Nov 27, 2009 Becoming the Perfect You 2 Comments
Nov 18, 2009 Working too hard at Listening? 4 Comments
Oct 29, 2009 Monogamy in a World of Attractive Others 4 Comments
Oct 25, 2009 Avoiding the Resentful Listener Add a Comment
Oct 15, 2009 Comparing Yourself to Others 1 Comment
Oct 01, 2009 When Others don't receive your empathy Add a Comment
Sep 24, 2009 Getting Stuck Arguments Unstuck Add a Comment
Sep 17, 2009 Jackal Language & Reactivity 2 Comments
Sep 02, 2009 Reigniting Intimacy Add a Comment
Aug 27, 2009 Angry & Resentful Add a Comment
Aug 13, 2009 Defending Against Intimacy Add a Comment
Aug 06, 2009 Showing Your Partner that S/he is a Priority 4 Comments
Jul 23, 2009 Come Closer, Give Me Space Add a Comment
Jul 09, 2009 When You Want to Scream 2 Comments
Jul 02, 2009 Decision Making Add a Comment
Jun 25, 2009 When Everything Changes Add a Comment
Jun 18, 2009 When You Want More Conversation Add a Comment
May 27, 2009 Success with Reactivity 1 Comment
Jan 22, 2009 A Volume Knob for Needs Add a Comment
Jan 15, 2009 A Little Listening Disconnect 1 Comment
Nov 12, 2008 Why not ask “why”? Add a Comment
Oct 30, 2008 The Confusing Question: "How are you?" 1 Comment
Mar 26, 2008 One Need Add a Comment
May 01, 2007 Less is More Add a Comment